As most of us know, using humor in the workplace is fraught with risk. It can drive people apart, shut them down, or get them fired. So, jokester beware.
Having spent the last several days in Norway, then Scotland, I noticed much gentle humor with word play, self deprecation, physical humor and stories with an unexpected twist to the ending. Living in small town, in communities where their family has lived for generations, mean humor doesn’t play well when you are stuck on the side of the road. The next guy might just pass you by and leave you there.
Big city folks can get by with more sarcasm. Or, the cut that is said with a smile and a laugh. You are not the good fellow if you don’t laugh along, hoping to come up with a retort before the moment is lost.
I see this “towel-slapping” in all male groups much more than in all female groups. It is a way to establish hierarchy in the social order. Generally in female groups, the expectation is that all are equal. So, the comments/jokes start when you get a little too loud or dominant. Humor is used to keep the social order without being direct.
As a leader in your organization, the humor you use sets the culture. I have a Member who naturally makes self deprecating jokes/comments that permit others to admit they have foibles and that they make mistakes. He also strives for excellence, so humor is not an excuse for lack of performance.
I am particularly sensitive to put down humor having grown up with it as a weapon used to keep me down, out or in my place. My bet is that this is true of a lot of your team members. So, if in doubt about how to start a meeting, tell a joke on yourself, if you must tell one. Save your sarcasm for the gym.
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Photo of Paul Dye in Edinburgh mimicking a British Sailor.